| Author | Message | ||
     R1DynaSquid |
I wish we could pick & choose who our family members would be...other than a wife. Seems like they just dont give 2 5hits sometimes. Just found out from a co-worker of my wifes that my grandmother died last tuesday. She lived in Florida & I knew she had been in poor health with thyroid cancer, but wasnt in constant contact with her. My aunt & uncles all live in FL as well & my sister is in S.C. but keeps in close contact with the rest of them. Could it have bothered 1 frickin person to call & let me know instead of hearing it thru someone else & then needing to read the details in the paper? Sorry, just had to vent a bit. | ||
| Lake_bueller |
Greg, Sorry to hear about you grandmother. That would suck having to hear about the passing of a family member almost a week later. Dennis | ||
| R1DynaSquid |
I'm going to be doing some calling later on tonight & see just whats up. My grandfather is buried up here & I would imagine my grandmother would want to be also. Thanks Dennis. | ||
| Vegasbueller |
Sorry to hear about your grandmother. Welcome to the world of the dysfunctional. Funny you mentioned South Carolina. That is where I was born and raised, I think it is manufacturers central for the socially disfunctionate. Grew up that way, but at 30 I finally got fed up and moved 2,000 miles away. Unfortunately, like you, I will probably never know if someone that I left there dies. Anyway...take care Nick | ||
| Lake_bueller |
Greg...you made me think of the dysfunction in my family. I have an uncle (Dad's brother) that is a complete loser. A quick CCAP search found 14 court claims against him in the past 13 years. Most are small claims (he's a deadbeat). I guess there's one in every family  | ||
| S2pengy |
My Wifes Grandmother Died 13 months ago and none of her family of 8 gave us a call.... Found out last month.... I know how you feel... | ||
| Whodom |
Dyna, Sorry to hear about your grandmother. I can't imagine why some people are like that, but I've seen it before. I guess the best you can do is make sure YOU aren't like that when you're in that situation. Nick, dysfunctional families are NOT inherent in being a South Carolinian. My parents (who are 85) just passed their 67th wedding anniversary. My Dad just got out after 9 weeks in the hospital and my family all hung together to help my mom and him out. Maybe I'm just really fortunate, but there ARE some good folks down here. Maybe y'all need to move back. Hugh (life-long, 6th generation South Carolinian) | ||
| Blake |
My Condolences Greg. Probably best to give your family the benefit of doubt on the issue. Certainly Grandma wouldn't want hostile feelings among family. | ||
| Newfie_buell |
My Condolences as well, I learned a long time ago that my life is so much less stressful when my immediate family is not in close contact!!!! I have told my mother over the years that living with her is like being in an episode of an animated cartoon. | ||
| Sshbsn |
My mother seems much happier since she lost her mind.  | ||
| Firemanjim |
Dyna,my family is in the dictionary when you look up dysfunctional.Just think, I am the MOST "normal" one of them---course that's a sliding scale,ya know. | ||
| Daves |
Sorry to hear about your Grandma. Dave+Penny+Bobbie | ||
| Ray_maines |
Is anyone elses family dysfunctional? Your asking the wrong question, Dude. Is anybody's family normal? I'll put my mother and sister up against any other two women in North America. I could go on but you don't want to read about it. You've all got your own stories. The BadWeB rocks. Thanks for being here guys. | ||
| Newfie_buell |
Ray, I'll take you up on that one against my mother, her 5 sisters and 8 brothers. Family gatherings there are just plain scary - even worse when you add a little alcohol...... | ||
| Midknyte |
eh. Just what is a normal family? | ||
| Charlieboy6649 |
My inlaws put the "FUN" back in dysfunctional... Sorry for your loss... | ||
| Captainkirk |
Sorry for your loss, Greg. Look up "cad" in the dictionary...it pretty well sums up at least one family member in every family I've ever met. | ||
| R1DynaSquid |
Didnt call anyone tonight, been rather busy. Wifes stepdad died last sunday & his funeral is tomorrow..had to wait for 1 daughter who is int he military in Korea to come home, & now this. I can honestly say that I wasnt real close with my grandparents...they moved out of town when I was about 15 years old & since then I have seen them maybe 7-8 times, but still common decency should have prevailed, she only had seven grandchildren total & my daughter gave her the only great great grandchild. | ||
| Vegasbueller |
Hugh: Yeah, I guess some make it through. My parents have made it 50+ years. They disowned me for moving to Vegas though. (you know...land of freaks, free sex, drugs, drinking, gambling, and general decadence!)  On another subject: I do miss that part of the country at times, especially the Charleston/Myrtle beach areas. | ||
| Grndskpr |
I wish we could pick & choose who our family members would be This sounds strange coming from me but, what i was told was that you cant not pick your family because its gods way of making you try and get along with people you would not normally be freinds with, the first time i heard it, a good freind had passed away, but the more you think about it, its kinda true, cruel joke, but ttrue R | ||
| R1DynaSquid |
Rog, that actually makes sense. The people I choose to hang around with are nothing like my blood relatives, hell I trust my friends but relatives think they have the right to walk all over you. | ||
| Rocketman |
Sorry Greg, and I hope it gets sorted. Thyroid cancer eh, poor dear. I've been suffering symptoms for a year or so now. Shaking, sweating profusely with the constant overheating and my eyes are bulging and looking weird too. Most often, and especially after a few straight bourbons, they sting too for the next day or so. The ultrasonic scan showed a 'multi nodular goiter', but the consultant I saw last Tuesday assures me my thyroid is enlarged rather than multi nodular. He felt it with his hands. My eyes tell him I've 'Graves disease'. They tell me something's not right. My treatment consists of three options. Remove the thyroid and pill up for the rest of my life. Drink a radioactive iodine solution and be cured straight away - then watch my thyroid deteriorate over a period of years, and end up back on pills forever. Take a course of pills for 18 months, maybe supplement my thyroxin too, as there's a 60% chance of success. I've opted for 18 months worth of pills. See if I can recover it. When I asked the consultant to do a biopsy he told me less than 2% of over active thyroids are cancerous, so they don't bother testing. He assures me he's the leading expert in the north of England. He seemed extremely genuine and helpful. I've been taking 20mg a day of Carbimazole, a blocker, whilst they sort out the long term treatment. It must be blocking what the thyroid is over producing because this past couple of weeks is the first time in a long time my temperature has not had me drinking 4 to 6 liters of water a day and running around with my shirt off. Your grandma seems to have suffered a rare illness Greg, according to my consultant. Please let me know any info if you think it relevant to my condition. Much appreciated, and once again, sorry for your upset. Rocket | ||
| Pammy |
Greg, I am sorry for the loss(es) in your family. Rocket my friend, I hope all goes well with your illness. Keep in mind the old saying, "only the good die young". So you, my dear, are bound to live FOREVER..  | ||
| Rocketman |
Well Pammy, I'm told by my GP and the consultant that these illnesses are all controllable with modern medicinal practices to no ill effect. So I'm not really ill? I guess I'll find out in about 18 months. Thank you for your kind thoughts too luv xx Rocket | ||
| Henrik |
Greg; my condolences on your loss. I know how you feel. I heard my grandfather had died in the hospital a few days after it happened. No one had told me he was in the hospital - going to and from work took me right by the hospital he was in. Really bad feeling. Henrik | ||
| Bomber |
Greg -- sorry to hear of your loss -- "friends are the family to pick for yourself" -- cliche but true -- strangness runs rampent in MY genepool as well, bud -- I'm the normal one in the family (scarey, kids!) -- I lost my father in a story very similar to Henrik's -- I think that we are led to believe in a reality that is not very common at all (Ozzie&Harriet, Norman Rockwell, et al) Rocket -- stand tall, be strong, as we know you are -- while I can't comment medically, I've seen strenth and deswire overcome pretty staggering health issues in tha past -- know you are valued, and have supporters, fans, and those that love you around the world | ||
| Sandblast |
Greg, I'm sorry. | ||
| Jerseyguy |
Greg, Sorry for your loss. My family was pretty disfunctional too. Mother in & out of mental institutions, multiple suicide attempts, addicted to drugs, finally OD'd on purpose at 72. Sister addicted as well, died at 57 from lung cancer. You play the hand you get and do the best you can. No complaints from me. I thank God every day for my life. Tomorrow I go in for a prostate biopsy. My PSA is too high. Doc says I have a 20% chance of having prostate cancer. Damn good odds if you ask me. | ||
| SouthernMarine |
Sorry for you loss Greg. I kinda know the feeling, my family has acted the same way about the deaths and hospitalization of close family members. | ||
| Rick_a |
I come from a big family. I don't know where half of 'em are even at. |
