| Author | Message | ||
     Cyclone8u |
Unfortunately not on a bike.  Tomorrow, my wife - the person that is my whole world - and I are starting marriage counseling. Metaphorically speaking, it started out as a slow drip that went unfixed and now the basement is flooded and we stand the chance of loosing the house. Tomorrow we start pumping the water out of our drowned relationship and not only try to salvage what is left but rebuild it stronger than it was even when new. I used to be the guy that read these sort of posts and said "sucks to be him", but let me tell you - it can be you. 2/3 of all married couples WILL experience infidelity. It doesn't happen for the reasons most (including me) think. If you think that your marriage is affair proof, ask yourself what you do to proactively prevent it. As 60+ percent of married people find out, not enough. Do yourself a favor and go to Marriage Builders. I think you will realize as I have that there is a lot more that goes into a lifelong relationship than most of us think, even if we think our relationship is great. I have high hopes. A co-worker went through 2 years of he!!, including 9 months of his wife living with her lover. They used the Marriage Builder philosophy and have returned their marriage to better than it ever was. He even told me that if he had it to do over again, he would still go through the pain of the affair - that's how much better his marriage has become. Again, I can't stress it enough. Spend an hour perusing that web site. It will be the best hour you could ever spend on the internet, and it may make a marriage that you already think is great even better - and more importantly - affair proof. Hopefully I'll be back to posting motorcycle based topics again soon. Sorry for the downer post, but based on the stats here, the vast majority of us are married. And I would guess that our relationship with our spouse transcends all else. If my tale of woe (and hopefully redemption) helps one couple, it was worth the post. (Message edited by cyclone8u on September 08, 2009) | ||
| Jpowell490 |
Cyclone, Best of luck to you in what ever you decide to do. It is your life and your relationship and you must be happy with your decision in the end. There are always two sides to every story for sure, but if my wife shacked up with another man for 9 months, she could have stayed there. Your life is way too short to put up with things like that. You may think that your significant other is all there ever will be and you are a great person for thinking that. At the end of the day, there are many other fish in the sea that will respect and be loyal to you, assuming you were the victim. Best of luck in your journey. |
