| Author | Message | ||
     F_skinner |
I find myself having to grow up a little more today. I will have to make some hard decisions about my job, my relationship and my state of residence. I just need to talk a little; this morning my father passed away. He suffered a stroke on Monday morning and went into a coma later in the day. He passed away early this morning. I will be flying home to NC soon. He was a career Marine having served from 1943 to 1971 retiring as a Sgt Maj. He was a competition shooter and raced stock cars in the 50’s. He was real involved with the Marines he served with throughout his career and I was able to attend several reunions of A/1/7 (Stable Able One Seven) Marines from the Korean War with him. He was also an Amateur Radio Operator with the callsign KB4OGI and was a very active morse code operator. More importantly he was a great Father to my sister, brother and me. He had a great since of empathy and integrity and never stereotyped a people or culture. He and my Mom have been married for 62 years and he has always been the nucleolus of our family keeping us informed on what the others were doing. I am immensely proud of his life. Over the years I have learned to appreciate my father’s wisdom and often think I look at things through his eyes from time to time. Right now I feel lost and wish I had one last day with him. I am thankful to have been raised by my father and hope that one day I can be half the man he was. My Mom is still with us and my decisions will revolve around her care and my brother and sister. Although I need a career change in a bad way I do not want to leave CO and move back to NC permanently however, I may be spending a lot more time there. This was a very difficult post to write but it has been a lot easier than talking, and I am writing it to tell all of you don’t wait till Fathers Day, Christmas or Birthdays to talk to your loved ones. Call them and tell them you love them and do it often. Frank | ||
| Hughlysses |
Frank- your dad sounds like a cool guy. I know what a hard time it is to go through. Prayers sent. | ||
| Rubberdown |
Condolences to you and your family. He sounds like a great man and Father. | ||
| S1wmike |
Frank My condolences to you and your family. Nothing I can say can replace your loss, but take strength from your memories and remember he is at peace now. Mike | ||
| Buellfighter |
Sorry to hear of your loss and will keep your family in my prayers. Lost my father 11 yrs. ago and still a day doesn't go by that I don't think about him. Mom still can't talk about him without tears. | ||
| Ulywife |
Frank, I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. Sounds like he was a great man and best of all a wonderful husband and dad. Please let us know the arrangements when you can. We'll have to see what my week holds. We'd love to have you back here in NC, even if for a short while. You've got friends in NC. Kristi | ||
| Zane |
Frank, My deepest condolences to you on the loss of your father. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. | ||
| Mm128 |
Frank, I am in the process of loosing my Grandpa... Stage 3 Cancer... If you need ANYONE to talk to... I have been through it MORE than i care to explain. All you have to do is send me a email and we can chat... I know we dont KNOW each other... but sometimes talking to a stranger and having someone listen helps. Besides... were Buell owners... that makes us FAMILY. My prayers are out to you and your family. Matt (LEO SOUTH GA.) | ||
| Ccryder |
Frank: It's been almost 4 yrs since my Dad passed. You will never get over the loss, you will learn to deal with it and understand. He will always be with you. You will constantly be reminded of him and that is a good thing. Just smile and think about your lives together, he will be doing the same. My condolences to you and your's. Neil S. | ||
| Bcordb3 |
Frank, may your dad rest in peace. | ||
| Spiderman |
Sorry to hear frank.. | ||
| Sekalilgai |
Sorry for your loss. My dad's 6th anniversary is coming up and with a mom on the other side of the world, I can appreciate your pain. Take care of yourself, the big decisions can wait a bit. | ||
| Brinnutz |
Frank, My condolences and prayers are with you and your family... | ||
| Wolfridgerider |
Very sorry to hear about your loss. Semper Fi | ||
| Doerman |
Frank, first of all, I am sorry for your loss. My dad passed years ago at the age of 82. He fell asleep and never woke up after an apparent stroke. It is a shock to your system when a parent departs. In my case, I almost felt a bit guilty, because I though about how great a life my dad had. Thoughts went to all those things he accomplished which never made newspaper headlines but helped and strengthened a lot of people and of course the good times we had. Sounds like your dad was much the same and of course, being your dad he was the greatest! My dad was clear and lucid until he died and I think the reason I felt a relief that he did not wake up is that he probably would have been miserable in a highly reduced capacity. A good memory of a person is a great thing and that can not be taken away from you. Take solace in the fact he is in a better place, treasure the memories and work toward passing his legacy through you to those you love. Hopefully this was not too personal. We all get through the grieving differently and there is no right way. I wish you well, my friend and fellow Bueller. | ||
| Seanp |
Frank, I'm sorry to hear about your dad. It sounds like you two were very close, which makes it harder at first, but much easier in the long run. That feeling of losing not just a person you love, but a great fount of knowledge and wisdom is overwhelming at first. But over time, you realize that he is still with you, and always will be. It's comforting to know that you, your brother and sister are his living legacy. | ||
| Ratyson |
Frank, I am sorry to hear about your Pop. My thoughts an prayers are with you and your family. | ||
| Nevrenuf |
frank, i am genuinely sorry to hear of your situation. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. seeing the way you are, it's obvious that he was a great father. it's been some 16+ years since my dad passed away and i really regretted not talking to him more. it was a bad time for me but it did get better over time. wish i had the support that i know about now. leave no doubt that you have support here. if there is anything personally that i can do, don't hesitate to ask. | ||
| Hr_puffinstuff |
I am writing it to tell all of you don’t wait till Fathers Day, Christmas or Birthdays to talk to your loved ones. Call them and tell them you love them and do it often. The most important thing in this life is who you chose to spend your time with. Surround yourself with people you love, and let them know every chance you get. | ||
| Pammy |
Incredibly tough. You will do the right thing for yourself and everyone involved and your Dad would be proud. So sorry for your loss. Pam and Wes | ||
| Court |
It sounds to me like a wise man left his family with the kindest of gifts, knowing they are loved. I lost my Father in 2000 and few days go by that I don't wish he was here to guide me through one more of life's never ending challenges. Your words are all I need to know what a special person and Father your Dad was. Vickie and I will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers and are so very sorry for your loss. Court | ||
| Firebolt32 |
Deeply sorry to hear about your loss Frank. Keep your chin up and think about all the good times spent with him. The Martello family will sincerely keep you in our thoughts and prayers. | ||
| Bartimus |
Frank, I'm sorry to hear that your father passed away. He will always be with you, through you, and your family, he lives on. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, and your family... Bart | ||
| Bluzm2 |
Frank, I too still have a heavy heart from the loss of my father a few years ago. Please accept my most sincere condolences. This seems to be the time of year for this. As many here remember I lost my Dad about 3 years ago about this same time of year. I still miss him. I think Court hit the nail square: "It sounds to me like a wise man left his family with the kindest of gifts, knowing they are loved. " Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Frank.. Brad | ||
| Brumbear |
my prayers on your loss My Grandpa used to say by the time you are old enough to know the things your Dad tells you are Right you will probably have kids that think your wrong I do not know if you have children. It sounds like your Dads lessons were learned well your father would be proud of a caring son such as yourself. | ||
| Jerry_haughton |
Frank, very sorry to hear of your loss. your Dad sounds like he was a great man. your sadness and pain will get easier with time. me 'n D are about ten minutes from northwest NC - holler if we can help in any way. FB&D | ||
| M2statz |
Frank, I too lost my dad 10yrs ago this past spring. 2 days short of his 63rd birthday. Under stressful times I still want to pick the phone and give him a call. We were in a similar situation, we lived in Oregon, he and mom were in Wis. Take some time to your self, be there for your family and remember the good times. It sounds like they were many. God bless! Michael | ||
| Paint_shaker |
Frank, My sincere condolences to you and your family. If there is anything I can do, let me know! Laird Some words you should know well.... "If the Army or the Navy ever look on Heaven's scene, They will find the gates are guarded by United States Marines!" (Message edited by Paint shaker on August 05, 2008) | ||
| Easy_rider |
Condolences to you and your family. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Roger | ||
| Hexangler |
My dad died three years ago of a stroke at the age of sixty. I was called to his house at four in the morning by my mom, only to find him helpless and on the floor. He was conscious, until the second day after when he too slipped into a coma and died soon after. Put quite a perspective on life for me. +1 He will always be with you (within you). You will not go a day with out missing him and thinking about him, at least, I haven't yet. BadWeB has been a good friend! |
