| Author | Message | ||
     Drkside79 |
Has this ever been discussed. Perhaps moving their profiles to a section where stories can be told and such? It would be nice to have a spot for fallen BadWebbers other than just our minds. Just a thought | ||
| Geforce |
I also think this would be a really cool tribute. I'd spend some time there looking. | ||
| 86129squids |
Not a bad idea... | ||
| Mtjm2 |
Just a thought GREAT idea Andy . | ||
| Pwnzor |
I concur. | ||
| Ljm |
Mentioned it a while back but no response. Just since I have been here seems like a lot of losses of great people. Would be nice to have a place to remember them. | ||
| Drkside79 |
So as no mods commented I'm guessing this is a no. If the hang up is money please let us know what we would have to donate.  | ||
| Slaughter |
Who here has sent a note to Blake or any of the moderators? You can't just assume because your idea is posted that means that the custodians are immediately reading your words. This is a good idea - send them a note. | ||
| Drkside79 |
As clarification I wasn't trying to be a pain with m last note. If thats how it came off Sorry. Plus Froggy reads everything. | ||
| Slaughter |
I sent Blake a note. This is worth following up on. Your comment wasn't inappropriate, it got me off my ass and send the note to Blake. | ||
| Ratbuell |
I think a Memorial section would be very nice. So would a Hospital section - for those who are down, but not out. If nothing else, it could help those close to the riders. I know Kim got a lot of support from Badweb when I was laid up 3 years ago... | ||
| 86129squids |
What Joe said. I'm sitting here, the TV is blaring the latest Letterman show which I've enjoyed, but life, and death, goes on... Blake, et al: Badweb has become a community. I try to keep up with the good folks I know here, and the ones I've met in person over the years who love Erik Buell's creations... reiterating, not a bad idea. "The Quick Board"... how existential! | ||
| Blake |
It's a thoughtful idea. Ideas are good; acting on them is the tougher task. Who will create and maintain the memorial topic in perpetuity? I don't do a decent job of keeping up with what we already have. And frankly my own opinion is that BadWeB is about living, not memorializing those who have passed. I for one don't like being reminded of tragedy. The time for publicly memorializing is best limited to the time of the unfortunate passing, and the place for memorializing ought to be one chosen by applicable loved ones. If they choose to share here, that is wonderful and I appreciate that, just so long as it's not in a permanent, high-profile manner. That's my view anyway. So my vote is a negative one on a memorial section. We have discussed this before and come to the same conclusion. | ||
| 86129squids |
Well put Blake... To support both yours and Joe's views, maybe a "Down but Not Out" category? Well, to think about it a bit more, a bit more existentially, the Quick Board would be fine for all of this. Thanks for the input, not to mention the work on BW. | ||
| Drkside79 |
Sorry to hear that Blake but thanks for the reply. | ||
| Reepicheep |
How about a "People we love, and the things they have taught us" section... But don't just limit it to people that have passed. That would be the "memorial", and it would be to the living and the dead. At the time of the actual event, if people want to share here, we want to be a part of it and celebrate the person you have lost with you, and mourn with you. I have met some incredible people I would otherwise never have known as a result of this (both living and dead). I know I would probably want to share if it touched me. But I would also want it to run its course, then fade. I don't want their death to eclipse the rest of their life (which is what a memorial section seems to lead towards). | ||
| Drkside79 |
Actually that's what i meant by a memorial or in remembrance section. I always view such things as a celebration of ones life not a dwelling on their passing. (albeit there is always a certain amount of sadness) | ||
| Slaughter |
The problem is that you'd need to lock the threads or they just get cluttered with the "me to, so sorry, god bless" - well intentioned but it shortly overwhelms the significance of the original tribute. | ||
| Jb2 |
Often wondered about a memorial section but having said that we are mulling over the idea of making next year's Big Jim's Ride the last one. We continued the ride first to erect the cross and then to erect a granite cross and there has always been interest on this board. In fact most participants come from this board. I can't think of one person who has attended that we don't call family now. It's been an eye opening experience and a huge catalyst for making new friends. All that aside, it's time to put the ride to rest. Next year's 10th will be the last one carrying Dad's name but we'll never quit gathering and riding in Franklin, NC. I have a gravesite to visit and a roadside cross where he lost his life. Not so sure I'd want Dad memorialized on the BWB. | ||
| Slaughter |
Good point about where/how somebody should be memorialized. We are all different in that HOW to memorialize somebody varies greatly. I've told Sunny that were I to be killed on the road, I should NEVER want my place of death to be menorialzied - but if a memorial were necessary then choose from those places that I loved while alive (and there are many) Yet - people still place crosses at places of death and that has always felt morbid, not celebratory. But that's just me. Last month, we scattered Mom's ashes on her property overlooking the small lake on her farm. We are going to put a granite bench in the cemetary where people may wish to sit and reflect (small town, very small church) We SURE AS HELL didn't put a cross at the intersection where the F**KING kid was texting when he killed her. | ||
| Bcordb3 |
The site should be done something like this. DOB - DOD screen name-. Name. Plain and simple nothing more. | ||
| Mtjm2 |
Sorry for your loss Steve , Lost my dad to a man that fell asleep . Had his family in the car . The HD dealer in Gburg has a memorial wall. I wouldnt mind seeing one here , but it should be up to the family to decide to post or not . I do understand Blakes stance , I also trust his judgment | ||
| Whatever |
That is a very good point Steve. My boyfriend who died had a favorite tree on the UW- Madison campus. It was a few blocks from where he lived when we met, and it was at Camp Randall, which has quite a bit of military significance, because it was where the Union Army gathered most troops from Wisconsin before the long march south. This is significant, because Lance was fascinated with war history, martial arts and the military. It was also under that tree where we had our first kiss, and I will always remember that. We sprinkled half his ashes there, as he wished, but his parents sprinkled half of them at his Dad's gravesite too, which I guess is fair. I never feel good driving by the apartment that he died in. It reminds me every time I drive by it that he should be here and he died alone and in a great deal of pain. Not a good memory. The tree has died due to Dutch Elm disease, but there is still a Civil War era cannon right next to where the tree stood. It was such a beautiful thing! Lance had showed me if you sit in the right spot under the tree and looked up into the branches you could see a woman there with her arms stretched out towards the sky. I still miss my best friend I had. I still think about him often. But I think of all the funny sh*t that happened during our time together, not how it was at the very end. That I have had to let go of... at some point you have to move on. | ||
| Slaughter |
True, So true | ||
| 86129squids |
Thanks Char. So clear, so correct. |
