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Jerry_haughton
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 12:26 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

It's my sad duty to report that Mrs. Cindy Dalton committed suicide this past Sunday. I just found out a few minutes ago.

She left behind her young son, Zachary.

She had apparently established an education fund for Zachary with the money raised at the Hillsville VFW benefit and auction, but hadn't yet received the money generated by my guitar auction here on BadWeB.

This money, and several late donations from the VFW - were being taken to Mrs. Dalton this past Sunday by one of her relatives, who discovered the tragedy upon their arrival at the Dalton farm.

My deepest thanks to those of you who donated funds for Mrs. Dalton. Please keep the entire Dalton Family in your thoughts and prayers.

FB

http://www.thecarrollnews.com/view/full_story/7764 914/article-Cindy-Moles-Dalton?instance=secondary_ stories_left_column

http://www.badweatherbikers.com/buell/messages/406 2/566443.html?1275079311
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Bluzm2
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 12:37 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

I am speechless, one tragedy after another.
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Whatever
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 12:38 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

That is just horrid... that poor child...

Never solves anything...
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Prior
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 12:49 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

Jerry,
Very sad news. They've been in my thoughts for a while, now Zachary especially. Hopefully the benefit and his education serve as a ray of light going forward.
Alex
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Toronto_s3
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 12:58 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

I am not familiar with the background of the story here. Can anybody fill me in?
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Wolfridgerider
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 01:05 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

I have no idea what to say....its just terrible and I feel so bad for their son.
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Ulywife
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 01:11 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

I have chills from reading this. How truly sad that this little boy will grow up without either of his parents. Heartbreaking news.
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Wolfridgerider
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 01:16 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

I am not familiar with the background of the story here. Can anybody fill me in?


http://www.badweatherbikers.com/buell/messages/406 2/564088.html
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Charlieboy6649
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 01:40 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

I am floored... My prayers are with their son.
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Drkside79
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 02:08 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

How old was the son.
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Jerry_haughton
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 02:21 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

Not sure - from the photos I've seen I'm guessing Zachary is maybe three or four years old.
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Toronto_s3
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 02:24 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

I still don't get it. Why would she take her own life when she still had a son to raise? Did she not have family around to help her out at all? How could she have been so desperate?
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Jb2
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 02:27 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

Wow, just wow. Loss for words. Sad. Ferris ya did all you could do. You and I know that suicide hurts those left behind more than anyone could imagine. I'm sure the reasons were right in her mind...
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Ulywife
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 02:31 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

How could she have been so desperate?

That's a hard one to answer. As much as I love my hubby, I can't imagine leaving my children. It's truly sad that she felt that alone and that suicide was her only option.

As a Mom, my heart absolutely breaks for Zachary.
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Mnrider
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 02:32 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

God bless you Jerry for doing what you could for someone you did not know.
Very sad.
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F_skinner
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 03:44 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

FB&D, I do not have the words but it is truly heartbreaking... Lynn and I will have the family in our prayers during this difficult time.

Frank and Lynn
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Jerry_haughton
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 04:13 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

Thanks all for your comments.

I visited on the phone with Donna Peery, the lady who organized the fund-raiser at the VFW, a bit ago. No one, it seems, has any answers to this sad tragedy, just questions.

I feel deep sadness for Mrs. Dalton, and for anyone else who is so overwhelmingly despondent that taking their life seems the only way out.

I have no right to judge her, but I'm also angry. Her son is in limbo - as of yet, a legal guardian has not been determined for Zachary - and he will now never know either of his parents.

Sadness. I feel deep, haunting sadness.

FB
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Sekalilgai
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 04:18 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

God bless you Jerry for doing what you could for someone you did not know.

indeed..
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Glitch
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 04:25 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

I've never had much sympathy for suicides, just because it always seems to me to be the most selfish thing a person could do, and really hurts everyone.
I can't however be totally sure what I'd do if I ever lost Ann.
Sadness. I feel deep, haunting sadness.
Me too, it really breaks my heart, the whole story is a tragedy.
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Drkside79
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 04:25 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

how someone can abandon their small child is beyond me. Very sad
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Rainman
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 04:38 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

When you're down, that far down, nothing makes sense and you really believe down deep in side that it's the best thing for everyone if you just bail out.

There just is no other way out and rational thought is impossible.

It's a terrible tragedy.
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Nevrenuf
Posted on Friday, June 04, 2010 - 05:40 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

quite a tragedy jerry. thoughts and prayers to this young soul who only gods knows whats in store for him at this time.

definitely good of ya to step up to the plate for someone you never met.
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Reepicheep
Posted on Saturday, June 05, 2010 - 11:27 am:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

Sorry to hear that. I'll be praying for everyone touched. : (
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Dbird29
Posted on Sunday, June 06, 2010 - 04:27 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

That is sad.
You and D are good folks with all the fund raising and support
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Jerry_haughton
Posted on Sunday, June 06, 2010 - 06:08 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

Thx David, and to the others who've given us props. Speaking for myself, maybe I'm trying to right some past wrongs I feel I've committed. Anyway, thank you.

I've had a chance to think more about this sad saga, talk a lot with Denise about it, and we spent the day with Alex and Heather and spent some time discussing it over lunch.

In spite of the fact the local community came together in a big way for Mrs. Dalton, to the tune of over $12,000, it's obvious that money is not what she needed.

I feel hollow about the whole deal. I feel good for what Denise and I did, and at the same time I feel guilty for thinking I'm some sort of "hero" for raising some stupid money.

Suicide hits awful close to home for me, and it'll haunt your days if you're not careful.

I wish I could think of something sage and inspirational.

The desire is there, but the words are not.

Thank you all.

FB

(Message edited by jerry_Haughton on June 06, 2010)
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Iamike
Posted on Sunday, June 06, 2010 - 06:20 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

How sad. Most likely she was dealing with problems before her husband's death and it turned out to be more than she could deal with. It is such a shame that the little ones are left this way.

Last summer we had a mother that killed one son and attempted it to the other. This turned out to be the 2nd try but the first was excused as an accident.

The poor boy and his father will forever be left with the nagging question as to why. Their mother will be in prison for quite some time. The really odd thing is that everyone thought that she was fine and didn't realize what she was going through.
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Nevrenuf
Posted on Sunday, June 06, 2010 - 08:49 pm:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

we can only leave this world thinking that we tried to make a difference in other peoples lives jerry. at least that's the way i look at it. and you can't change something that you had no control over.
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Ulywife
Posted on Monday, June 07, 2010 - 11:28 am:   Edit Post Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Move Post (Custodian/Admin Only)

I feel hollow about the whole deal.

You should never feel hollow about doing something good that you know is right. You are always one of the first to step up to the plate when someone is in need. You, along with other BadWebbers, gave of yourself to someone you didn't know because it felt right. You didn't do it for the "look at what I did", you did it out of the goodness of your heart.

Unfortunately, Cindy was so depressed after loosing her husband, she felt she had nowhere else to turn. I can't imagine how those that did know her and were close to her feel. We can't help people who are not honest about what they need or want from us in their time of need. Only Cindy is responsible for her last act. It leaves us with more questions and now concern for her young son.

I hope that there is a family member that will be taking Zachary in to live with them. He's so young and can't possibly understand why both of his parents are now gone. My heart breaks for this little boy.

No one should change who they are or what they do because of someone else's selfish actions.
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