| Author | Message | ||
     Fast1075 |
Having experienced the same thing before, I share your pain. Hard lesson learned. The problem is that women put up the same front regardless of what they are thinking at the moment...it goes kind of like this..."well he's good looking...I'll go with that till I find out what he's worth"..."oh crap, he don't have enough money"...dump...or the reverse..."he has money, I'll take a crack at it"...ooops...he is too smart to let me get my fingers in his bank account....dump...or "ohhh he has money, looks, and is generous.....the perfect guy to use to piss off my former that tossed me for being such a biatch"...hooks up until former can't deal with "his" going somewhere else steps in an....you guessed it.....toss....it's not a matter of emotion to them...it is a cold calculating process....the exception to the rule is the odd one that has character....those are the "keepers" You want wimmin?? flash your money, drive a fancy car...talk big...they will stand in line...just remember...where a line goes in the door...one has to go out... The game sucks for guy that have old school upbringing where dedication and honesty and sticking to your word matters. The world has changed...the game has changed... Just so the other side of the coin can have it's view....there are ladies out there that are honest and genuinely caring and know what dedication is about. Unfortunately....they are all married or dead...the rest are single for a damn good reason. In the words of a bad advertizing campaign....Screw it...go riding...leave you muddy boots in the middle of the living room floor, watch TV in your drawers and on purpose eat beans and practice till you can fart the "Star Spangled Banner". If you ever find a woman that will wash your feet and knows what "Load Up" means...you will have a keeper. | ||
| Nevrenuf |
get in touch with slicker and see if he can find you a russian bride. there's a lot of screwed up american woman out there. they wouldn't know i good thing unless it was bought for them. like other's have said, the good ones are gone. | ||
| Ratyson |
two appropriate sayings: It is better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all. If it has tits or tires... one day it will cause you problems. | ||
| U4euh |
Jim she couldn't handle you big heart and kindness, it scared her. If you really want this lady in your life, back off. If she is as good to deserve your attention, she'll call. If not, then she just didn't deserve you in her life. Keep your head held high, your a better man when you do | ||
| Kenm123t |
When there are women involved there is ALWAYS trouble ! No matter how good you are to them They will invent problems a woman without a problem to whine about will cause one | ||
| Sekalilgai |
no valuable advise here other than...I'm glad to see at 52 you're leading with your heart and that at 42 I've no excuse for getting too comfy with cats, dogs, ....bikes. People are a tricky business, especially them wimmin folk. | ||
| Cityxslicker |
Every time I ride a roller coaster with a loop I get a bit ill...even sober.... But I so enjoy rollercoasters.... You would think I would learn.... You can go through life skipping the roller coasters; or ride them all that come your way, hoping to find the one that doesnt make you hurl cookies..... Love is like that. | ||
| Mr_grumpy |
The cure for all woes. Good friends, Scotch & ROAD TRIP! Time is the healer. Hang in there it gets better. (mostly) One door closes another one opens. PS, If you want anymore clichés pm me, I've got lots.  | ||
| Oldog |
All First thanks for kind words I just got a huge supprise Debbie called and just spent an hour talking to me we had a good conversation go figure... | ||
| Nevrenuf |
good to year jim but just act like you don't give a crap to much though. | ||
| Sekalilgai |
DANGER WILL ROBINSON! shields up! shields up!...glad to hear talking is in the works...good luck  | ||
| Tepiddeath |
Are you guys f@cking serious?! First, it is a well known fact that over 90% of all relationships that break up and get back together will continue that pattern for the duration of the relationship. Also, unless you like being treated like a motha f@cking doormat, then be smart and cut that c@nt loose, I am sure you are much better off without her. Pull your big boy panties up and move on. Spend some time thinking about why you keep putting yourself into this type of relationship, and fix what is wrong with you. Being a codependant (man especially) is only attractive to someone who has issues of their own. Do something good for yourself, let this one go, and figure out what is wrong with you, then fix it. I would be willing to bet that you would then find someone really special, and usually at exactly the moment that you are not even looking. Oh yeah, and grow up, you are not in high school anymore! If I have offended you, please try to understand that was not my intent. I have the great knack for being blatent and forward with my opinion, and as a woman reading through this thread I think I would have rather threw up in my own mouth. | ||
| Cityxslicker |
Im offended, I am gonna put on my Snuggy and watch Beaches and eat Ben&Jerry's big bad meanie. | ||
| Gunut75 |
I just watched a chick flick with my chick!  | ||
| Oldog |
TD, please re-read my initial post, and subsequent ones, I was sure that the relationship was over, not so it seems. the only thing that was offensive was refering to ANY woman as "C@NT" I dont even call my X wife things like that... interesting premmis in your comments current situ is not {on off on off} | ||
| Oldog |
I called it tonight, tired of games feeling better Again thanks all. | ||
| Cityxslicker |
My 'offense' was marked with deep cynicism and sarcasm. Anybody that knows me, knows I dont have a Snuggy  | ||
| Mr_grumpy |
"Time To Move On" - Tom Petty. http://roguel.vox.com/library/audio/6a00c22527a98b f21900cdf7f21901094f.html This song always puts things in perspective for me & lifts my spirits. Good that you've made some closure, the yes/no/maybe bit is the hardest. | ||
| Oldog |
Thanks Grump Nice tune and thought... | ||
| Swampy |
Good on you! You control the situation. From what you posted, it looks like she started getting scared that you didn't call, and her curiosity got out of control. Expect a few more calls before it is over completely. | ||
| Xbeau12s |
This is quite the relationship advice? maybe relationship venting topic! I think you'll always have to put up with some stuff when you are with anybody and that's just a fact of life. When you go through many relationships that are the same it's those types that you will attract. Good luck with your relationship adventure. If it was me I'd pull the plug on this one. Been there done that cold feet situation. If your both not in it together, someones gonna get hurt. | ||
| Oldog |
Swampy I think you have it back wards I was told that she would call last night we used to talk between 9:00 and 10:00 930 rolls around no call, so I call no answer I get the machine, call back at intervals, till 10:15 as expected I got mad, wrote a "pointed" letter not expecting a rejoinder got one ouch, told her no responce is needed. I believe a new better pradigim is needed till then gone fishin... | ||
| Sekalilgai |
till then gone ridin'... | ||
| Cityxslicker |
call between 9-10.... it can go to voice mail, it was a great nite to be on the bike It is why my garage is full and the bed is empty. My bikes have NEVER lied to me. if I find a woman that will do the same, then she is welcome; otherwise it is bikes. I always enjoyed this clip about womenz Remember when your life goes to shiate, concentrate on work (couldnt find that clip) | ||
| Swampy |
What I was saying is you were in control, you called it, as in called it "over" Go fishing, good luck, ride hard, ride safe! | ||
| Kenm123t |
Tepid do you Know Pammy B rofl | ||
| Jssport |
Dogs are better than women, here's why: Lock your dog and your woman in the trunk of your car for 4 hrs, the dog will still be happy to see you when you open the trunk. | ||
| Oldog |
Epilog, Still over, Been out with another local girl, just friends, I wonder what may have come out of the crashed relationship, as I go over it in my mind it's probably all for the best in the long run, Decided to take TD's comment about work on me, so I am getting extreemly serious about my food intake / choices weight loss - health Work and meeting nice gals for dating. Thanks for the comaradery, the kind words and support, This is a great group to belong to | ||
| B00stzx3 |
Oldog, good to hear bro. I been seriously thinking the same thing...its proven true that excercise/weight loss/subcounsious thoughts (like you thinking the back of your mind that you should cut back on junk or whatever) has direct effect on your self-confidence and well being. And chicks can TELL when a dude has confidence, it's like scientifical or something. | ||
| Nevrenuf |
you gonna go back to joining wolf, vern and others jim. might help keeping you a little focused. |
